Galentine's Day; It's a Tradition, Bitches!

Last night was the third annual "Galentine's Day", making it a full-blown tradition. 

It's here for keeps, girls. What's Galentine's Day?  It's only the most important day for female social relations out of the entire year.  Let me explain.

Galentine's is when you and your favourite girlfriends get together at one of your houses, watch movies (but usually talk over them for the entire duration), eat cupcakes (and other essential snack foods meant to fill voids), and most of all, talk about Love

Specifically, we talk about how valuable we all are as women, our romantic trials, tribulations & triumphs, and about becoming adults.  But mostly, we try to understand what the hell "love" is.

We ask each other thought provoking questions about the nature of love.  Questions like:

  • Have you ever been in love? Are you in Love?
  • Are you scared of commitment? Why? Why not?
  • What does love mean to you?  
  • What makes you love someone else; what is the "it" factor?
  • Do you always know you are in love, or can you grow to love?
  • How do you know when to give up on love that's not going right?
  • What does sex mean to you; is it connected to love?
  • How do you know if someone loves you?
  • Do you think he likes/loves me?
  • What the HELL do I do?
  • Are we pathetic?
  • Where did all the cupcakes go?
  • What do you mean, "I ate them all"?

And the like.

The point is, Galentine's Day is a special day that female friends come together to get to the knitty-gritty of any romantic situation, and we figure it out.  And even if we don't figure it out, we feel a lot better having discussed our feelings at length.

We are all concerned with love.  Girls & Boys (but I think girls especially) are always wondering about Love and if we'll ever meet anyone, and if love really exists.  I think there are two kinds of people: people who think about love (cautious), and people who jump right into love (risky).  Both have a different experience of what love is, but neither has a necessarily clear idea of what it really is.  The conclusion is that I don't think that we'll ever understand love because we keep thinking about love as it relates to

another person and we never truly know or understand other people. 

We only know ourselves, and how we feel about particular people.  We want to be accepted by people we admire, and that's why we become so crazy over thinking and over analyzing every single thing they do - to death...

Here's an analogy.  When you're watching a movie, is it more enjoyable to watch it, trying to figure out what's going to happen next, or is it better to watch it unfold naturally and accept the way the story the way it is, and was always going to be?  Why worry about an ending that hasn't even happened yet?  Why concern yourself with things you couldn't change even if you tried?  We are prisoners to life & love, the same way we are prisoners to watching a good movie for the first time.  We sit in theatres packed full of other people - family, friends, and strangers - and seated, watching things happen in a story that has a beginning, middle, and end.  I know I'm getting philosophical here, but I don't think that life is random.  When I look back on my life, the good and bad things that have happened all make sense; the timing, the cast, and the plot all make sense in some strange way.  I don't think it's just me - everybody has their own story, and I think it'll all come together the way it's supposed to.

So where does Galentine's fit in? 

Galentine's is a reminder of all the things we already knew - that things are going to be okay, and that we don't need to worry about any of this.  All that matters right now is that we are watching Pretty in Pink, eating cupcakes, we are lovely, and we are loved - at the very least by each other.

**Side note: I fully support the Male equivalent

Palentine's Day.  Not to be confused with "Palestine Day", unless you also happen to be from that part of the world.

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